Friends vs. Associates

Happy Monday! I first want to give a warm loving shout to all the veterans out there. We owe a lot to you all and we don’t thank you all enough. God bless you all!

Now to be honest, I didn’t know what I was going to talk about in today’s blog. It took me a minute think about what would matter enough to write about. Then it came to me this weekend. Friends. This blog is going to talk about the difference between friends and associates. We all got them, and most people out there don’t know the difference. Trying to hold on to people or friendships that are fake and half ass just because we feel like we have to. Not opening up to new people because we feel like they will do us dirty.

For years I’ve had up and down relationships with people. I’ve let “friends” walk all over me, disrespect me, and abuse my kindness. It’s to a point now where I don’t need new friends, because the ones I got are loyal, respect me and love me for who I am; flaws and all. You know you’re my friend if I text you and make an effort to check in on you. You know you’re my friend when you know even when I’m busy I make the time. We’re associates if we friendly when we see each other. Sorry not sorry. I give the same energy I get. If you’re not calling and texting me and making an effort why should I? That’s what people don’t understand, friendships are two way streets.

It takes two people to be invested inorder for the friendship to run smoothly. There is no way anything works if one person is trying more than the other. AND I don’t mean fake trying, because that just don’t cut it. We’re in a era where there is so much technology around us that provides us with so many different ways to communicatez, that talking to friends shouldn’t be an issue. There is no excuse but pure ignorance of why a TRUE friendship can’t work.

Now, don’t be out here trying to force friendships either. If y’all just don’t vibe then y’all don’t vibe. That’s okay not to be friends with everyone you meet. Also, just because you might run in the same circles doesn’t mean you both have to be all extra close. As long as y’all are respectful, there’s no reason why y’all can’t just be cool when y’all see each other. Don’t force something that’s not there. It maybe hard to tell someone but it is what it is.

At the end of the day all I am saying is be true to who you are and to your friendships. Let people go if it’s time and stick by those who are sticking by you. Not everyone is meant to be friends and some people are meant to be friends for a life time. Know the difference between the trashy ones and the good ones. I didn’t at first and I might still get fooled, but I’m a stand by my morals and live my life with or without certain people.

Until next time! Stay positive and have a great week you all!