Self Care

As you can all see I did not post all of December. Or even at the start of the New Year. I didn't go anywhere, but there was a lot going on. Plus I was trying to get my Vlogs set up. It is a learning curve let me tell you. Anyways, none of that is important right now. Let's get to the topic at hand. This blogs topic is SELF CARE. I chose this topic for a number of reasons, and you'll understand once you read the entirety of this post. 

To start off, loving ones self is the most important aspect of life. If you can not love yourself, then you can not love anything or anyone else. You can think you love something, but I will be honest with you, it's not love. It's an illusion of love, fading or growing the more you change in different directions. Be a family person, support your friends, but remember that you matter too. There was a point in my life where I didn't love myself. Some people reading this might be surprised, but it is in fact true. There were some years when I didn't think I would make it. I let people use me and hurt me, just so I could keep friends that I thought I needed. I let people disrespect me because I didn't know how to defend myself. I talked to the wrong kind of people that never cared about me in the first place, but I thought it was love because I so wanted to be loved. I was unhappy with my weight, unhappy at home and unhappy in life. I learned to love myself, and I continue the journey everyday. I take time to myself, I treat myself, and I remember that I can manager what I want to enjoy my life the best way. I've learned a lot more of self care. 

Meek Mill stated the other day in a tweet, I think, that he wants women to stop with the lace front and be more natural. No there was a lotttt of talk after. People coming out left and right with their opinions. Well here is my opinion. Do whatever the hell you want to do. We live in a time period that allows us to be more open and creative with who we want to be. We can wear make up to make ourselves feel more beautiful, wigs or extensions to have a look we've always wanted, and body enhancements because we feel as though we need it. NONE of these things mean we look or feel less beautiful or that we think we need those things to love ourselves. I personally like wearing wigs because I get to change the colors and try something new, and it is more healthier for my hair than dying it all the time. I love my natural hair, I need to take better care of it, but I love it and I wouldn't trade it for anything. All the extra things we women do don't define who we are, we decided who we are not the nails, hair, make up, or fake asses. These things are all just about self caring for ourselves. My friend said to me a few weeks ago that she's loving the new me. Always having my nails done and hair done. Loves that I actually want to be presentable. Now she said this because she knew how I was so down that I didn't care how I looked, but now that I feel a lot better I like feeling nice. That entails having my nails and hair done, or dressing nice one night and just going out. I don't do these things for other, but for myself because it makes me feel good. 

Love thy self . Care for thy self. Nurture thy self. Sometimes you have to be selfish and that is okay. Work hard. Make money. Live life but don't let life pass you by. Remember you.